My #1 Love Mantra

My #1 love mantra offers a simple, effective, and minimalist approach to cultivating love and inner peace in your life and takes as little as 3 minutes a day.

I first conceived this concept several years ago when I was feeling a bit disconnected from myself and my life. I was feeling overworked, overwhelmed and just not my usual happy self. Within the first few days of starting this practice, I felt wonderful results and I want to share it with you.

Its sheer simplicity may make some skeptical, but don’t underestimate the power of the word. And this hack works for both couples and singles alike.

The Power of an Affirmation

Before we dive into my 3-minute love technique, I’d like to explain the wonderful world of mantras and affirmations! A mantra or affirmation is a ‘sacred message or text, charm, spell, or council.’ They have been used for thousands of years, and their origins are thought to be traced back to ancient tribes in India and Tibet. While a mantra is understood to be a sound, a word or phrase spoken aloud, an affirmation can be used as a spoken word, a written word, or a thought.

The rhythmic repetition of an affirmation is one of the simplest and easiest forms of meditations. It has the power to quickly create a focused state of being.  It helps to quiet the mind and induces a sense of calm and inner peace. By using this technique, we can quickly and deeply shift from a state of unease to a deeply peaceful state where we become more open and receptive.


“Repeating a simple phrase enhances and

solidifies a new belief at a subconscious level.”


Repeating a simple phrase enhances and solidifies a new belief at a subconscious level. Additionally, this simple practice can positively affect one’s well-being. It helps reduce stress, promotes relaxation, and soothes the nervous system.  

The late Swami Sivananda, renowned spiritual teacher and yogi, said, “A mantra is not just a sound or vibration. It is a divine power that transforms the one who chants it.”


Whatever you focus your attention on grows!

By focusing on a negative feeling, such as loneliness, the focus becomes like a magnet, attracting more of those same feelings. It’s like watering a lonely plant. The more you think about it (water it), the more the lonely plant grows. By replacing the lonely thought with love using this mantra, only love and peace can grow.

If this love guide is the seed, you are the pot and your mind is the water (the thought) from which the plant will slowly grow. Give it some daily sunshine (daily repetition) and watch the feelings of warmth, connectedness, love and peace bloom into your life. You may be surprised at how others around you become more loving too! You will become like a magnet!

 "I am love – I am love’

The Love Mantra

Once you’ve settled into bed at night (wait till everyone’s asleep to avoid disturbance), lay on your back and get comfortable.

  1. Rest one hand on your higher heart, that sacred spot between your physical heart and your throat, also known as 'the seat of the soul,' and allow the other hand to rest along your side.
  2. Close your eyes and take one full, slow inhale through your nose, and exhale through your nose. Repeat two-three more times.
  3. When you’re ready, start the love mantra aloud or in your mind, I am love, I am love, I am love. If it helps, you can repeat with the rhythm of your breath.
  4. You can either set your timer for 3-5 minutes or you can continue until you peacefully fall asleep (this usually doesn’t take long)!
  5. If you awaken during the night, repeat the love mantra, I am love. You might like to imagine breathing in the love on the inhale and expelling all the negative stuff on the exhale. The mantra will likely help you fall back to sleep much faster than focusing on what you need to do the next day or negative mind chatter.
  6. Upon waking in the morning, before opening your eyes, repeat again for another 3 minutes or until you’re ready to rise.

That’s it! I did mention it was simple!


Power in Repetition: How long will it take?

When I first started this technique, I would repeat the mantra at least 100 times or around 3 minutes in the morning and at night. 

The time it takes to begin to feel a positive shift will depend on the time you put into repeating your affirmation and the intensity of the emotion and will vary from person to person, but sticking with the same mantra for just a few minutes in the morning and evening for 2-3 days should experience some positive difference.

Repeat it till you believe it!

Remember the saying, fake it till you make it? It kind of rings true here. We want to say it until we feel it and believe it. No matter how long it takes, feeling complete unconditional self-love and acceptance for yourself is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Image how much easier life can be if we all had a strong sense of unconditional self-love at every age. While many already have a healthy sense of self, for those who missed this learned skill, it’s better late than never.

‘Unconditional self-love is the ultimate gift to yourself.’

Practice and Persistence

After a few weeks of practicing the ‘I am love’ mantra, I felt connected to myself, my husband, and people around me. I no longer had those negative feelings, and I no longer needed to repeat it daily.

Now and then, when I feel a bit uneasy, I’ll use this technique and repeat ‘I am love, I am love, I am love.’ Within just a few minutes I’m feeling fine and ready to get back to it once again. 

Roadblocks and Remedies

There may be a few obstacles to success, they include;



Thinking it’s too easy to actually work.

Try it for 1 week! The commitment is low and the possible benefits are huge.

Noise and distractions.


Practice when everyone’s asleep to mitigate possible distractions. Turn off electronics.

Changing your mantra too often.


Stick to the same mantra to help ensure the new belief dissolves deep in your mind and body. We want it to fill every cell of your being.

Not repeating it often enough.

Commit to 3 minutes twice a day for 1 week.

Falling asleep too quickly.

Not really an obstacle, what a lovely way to fall asleep. When you wake just pick the affirmation up again, easy.


Affirmation Variations

While love is often regarded as a powerful force and one of the highest vibrational frequencies, this mantra can work for any negative emotion: loneliness, sadness about the past, anxiousness about the future. Simply repeat, ‘I am love!’

However, if you want to pinpoint your discomfort, you can use the following variations or make up your own. Just swap the word ‘love’ for whatever your soul is needing right in the moment. The key is to keep the phrase short and sweet and ideally something you can say in one inhale or one exhale. Do what feels right to you.

Feeling a sense of unworthiness? Try ‘I am enough,’ or ‘I am perfect inside and out.’

Feeling anxious? Try ‘I am safe.’

Feeling overwhelmed with your workload? Try ‘I have more than enough time.’

Feeling anxious about money, try ‘I always have enough money.’

There’s no right or wrong - just say whatever feels good and resonates.


‘My #1 Love Mantra’ offers a simple and effective approach to cultivating love and inner peace in your life. The power of repetition, staying committed and consistency allows the new belief to take root in your body and mind. Over time, you may experience positive changes in your mood, relationships, and overall well-being.

Embrace this simple yet powerful practice and watch love and peace blossom in your life, becoming a magnet that attracts more positivity, love and joy.

Take a moment,

Hayley x

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